Guest blogger Brett Blumenthal is the best-selling author of three books, including 52 Small Changes and—fresh off the presses today—A Whole New You. Her writing is regularly featured on the Huffington Post and Yahoo!, among many other outlets, and she is the founder of Sheer Balance.
At the turn of every new year, millions of individuals vow to change something about their lives. Many set goals to lose weight and improve health, some look to reinvent their careers, and others hope to strengthen relationships. Unfortunately, within a few weeks of the new year, many resolutions fall by the wayside. In A Whole New You, I offer a six-step process to help people make real transformation that lasts.
Lasting change has to be authentic to you as an individual; to your desires and your needs. To change because we “have to” or “should” sets us up for failure in the long run. If, for instance, you attempt to lose weight solely because you think you should, you may be successful in the short term—but old habits likely will creep in later, and the weight will return. But if you have a deep personal desire to lose weight, your chances of long-term success will be much greater.
To ensure success, it's critical to be honest with yourself about what you really want. Honest evaluation of how much you desire to change is crucial to making real transformation happen.
Here are some questions to consider:
- Why am I making the change? List all the reasons for considering the change.
- What is my motivation? Identify the driving force behind your interest in change. Go beyond the rationality of why, and think about the emotional side and your feelings. Is your interest due to external influences, guilt, or because you think you should or need to? Or do you have a burning desire to make the change?
- Am I really passionate? On a scale of 1 to 10, with “1” being the least and “10” being the most, evaluate how passionate you are about the transformation you’re considering. Also assess if you have felt a strong passion for a long time or if it might be fleeting.
- What would change feel like? Imagine you are successful in your transformation. How would it feel? The same? Better? Would you feel exhilarated? Relieved? New and improved?
As you consider the above, always remember: True transformation must be authentic to you and to your goals. The six steps outlined in A Whole New You provide the framework to build goals for your own transformation. The more you stay true to yourself, the more successful you will be.